I don't know what to do!

Hello again dear friends. 

Happy Easter as we remember the reason we have a glorious future - the death and resurrection of Christ made all the difference. 

 This week as I pondered what to write about, the phrase "I don't know what to write about" echoed in my head. When it did, I smiled because I then knew what I was going to write about. 

I'm sure I am not alone in the feeling of helplessness that sometimes comes and makes you scream - I don't know what to do! 

This can happen in one of two ways. Either you are paralyzed with indecision and unable to determine what next step to take or what activity to pursue or you've done all you know to do and nothing seems to work. 

 Let's look at the first scenario. In my case, I couldn't figure out a topic that would be relevant to you my friends. It seemed I had lost all inspiration. Typically, I write from my circumstances or what's going on around me but with Nigerian elections and all that, it seemed the only viable topic might be elections and I wasn't going to join that party! We've had more than enough commentary on that on every conceivable social media. 

It then occurred to me that I possibly couldn't be alone in My dilemma. And that, is the first step towards an answer to the question of not knowing what to do. First, realize you aren't alone in what you're feeling and don't feel despondent. Others have gone through the same and somehow made it through. So look out to your environment, relationships, etc for inspiration or guidance. In such cases sometimes you have to do "whatsoever you hand finds to do" and as you do that, inspiration or clarity will come. Sitting still isn't the answer in scenario 1.  

 Scenario 2 is practically the opposite. You have done all sorts, gone left, right, perhaps turned 360 or 180 degrees round and maybe even backward and nothing seemed to work or make a difference. The song that popped into my mind when thinking about this is Stand by Donnie McClurkin. He says it all. In this scenario, standing still and waiting on God is your best option. Rest from your efforts and ask God to step in. This isn't to say that you can't ask God for direction in scenario 1 by the way. 

 In scenario 2, you want to take a time out, review the situation and assess what you've done so far. It's a time for quiet reflection and evaluation. Sooner than later, God has a way to coming through and giving direction. Sometimes it's direct to you - an idea pops into your mind or heart, or you come across something that seems to answer your question(s). Other times, it's through other people, a casual statement by someone, a comment that wasn't even meant for you that you over hear. Or directly from someone you sought counsel or guidance from. 

Yet other times you find direction in your environment as you observe life happening. Gut feel is also important. What resonates deep within you, even if it doesn't make sense? I have a dear, long lost friend to thank for reminding me yesterday of how important gut feel is. 

 In both situations, patience is called for. I've learnt long ago that I shouldn't give in to any situation that calls for a decision now now. No decision should ever be rushed. There are always various sides and perspectives to anything and you need that time element to be able to review all in order to make a properly informed decision. 

 It's Easter, friends and you are looking forward to some R&R I'm sure. I won't make this too long so you can go and enjoy your long weekend. I hope some of this resonates with you and fills some little need somewhere. 

 Till next week, Blessings on you and yours. 

 Your Friend, 

 Olubunmi